Carmen Bryce
Communications Manager, Mental Health Ireland
Despite menopause being an inevitable biological process, there is little menopause support and a lack of understanding of the physical and mental health challenges women face.
Similar to society’s approach to talking about menstruation (AKA the ‘curse’ or ‘that time of the month’), the female experience of menopause has historically been shrouded in secrecy, misinformation and, at times, shame.
Why women need menopause support
Menopause is a systemic change to the body and mind that can be disruptive, unsettling and upsetting for the woman experiencing it. The physical symptoms of menopause include tiredness, night sweats, insomnia, hot flashes and memory loss or ‘brain fog.’ Menopause can also impact mental and emotional health with symptoms ranging from mood changes to anxiety and depression. That’s why women should feel supported, listened to and understood during this time.
Learn: recognise it and do some research
The first step is to learn about the symptoms and effects — and how they vary for every person. You don’t need to be an expert, but recognising the signs and a little research into how you can support someone you care about who is experiencing menopause can make a world of difference.
Simply being a sympathetic listener can
be a source of comfort and support.
Lean in: be there and be present
The worst thing for someone going through a difficult time is to feel as if they’re being avoided or ignored. While giving someone space can be healthy, walking out or not returning their texts or calls can be very hurtful. You don’t have to know the right thing to say, simply being present is enough. Someone you care about may feel low, anxious and could be struggling with self-esteem as their body changes.
They may need to be reminded of how much you appreciate them and how you’re trying to understand what they’re going through. Simple gestures like a compliment, a cup of tea or an offer to help out around the house can go a long way.
Listen: take the time to hear them
Simply being a sympathetic listener can be a source of comfort and support. Again, you don’t need to have the right answers or even any answers at all. Be an active listener — that is, really hear what the person is saying and is concerned about and make time to listen. Don’t take it personally if someone you care about is irritable or moody. It isn’t deliberate, so try to be understanding and empathetic.
Mental Health Ireland is launching a ‘Menopause and Mental Health’ information booklet in October for women experiencing menopause and their supporters. It will be available for free download on mentalhealthireland.ie.